Today, most psychologists are constantly faced with the fact that women turn to them, who, in the literal sense of the word, have to save on everything, and also independently provide not only themselves, but also small children.
Women who find themselves in difficult situations begin to constantly suspect their spouse of infidelity, as well as addictions, which can often be costly. In this case, sometimes a simple appeal to a psychologist is enough. Or it is enough to find information on this topic. What is the best thing to do if the spouse has stopped providing and giving money? So that this situation does not worsen and parting does not happen, it is important to carefully study all aspects of this topic. After all, the husband may have some of his own motives, which he is guided by. A child can also suffer from a lack of finance.
Reasons for Lack of Finance
Some women believe that a man simply regrets the means to support his family, however, in reality, he may really have real difficulties in order to earn money. Psychologists are convinced that this aspect is quite important, since a man actually sometimes decides to limit his own family in terms of money for various reasons. In this case, one can suspect that he has some serious psychological problems. This is what psychotherapists do. They can unblock consciousness and allow a man to remove certain attitudes, get rid of fears.
If there really are difficulties, it is enough to turn to a psychotherapist, who will finally be able to find certain problems and even eliminate the causes at the root. When the painstaking work is done, as well as the analysis of all possible aspects of the lack of money in the family itself, it is quite possible that the problems will simply evaporate. A man will simply leave his own comfort zone and feel completely different, will be able to realize how great a responsibility is to him. A real businessman must be able to deal with stress. And a woman has only to believe in him.
Most modern psychoanalysts emphasize that women, as well as men, have completely different attitudes to the distribution of material wealth and to money itself in particular. These differences are considered significant, for this reason it is so important to understand them and find out everything thoroughly. Such differences can be considered quite significant. The modern world literally screams that it is a man who is able to realize himself to the greatest extent in his own career. But some men feel like real losers. They don't feel happy. A loved one can suffer from this and even hate himself, make scandals. You need to be able to stop conflicts in time, take a vacation to rest. Even the work you love can become a real problem. And childhood experiences become not worthy of attention.
For the woman herself, it is important not just whether there is money, but whether it can be spent on items necessary for the family, as well as things. They are considered the real keepers of the hearth, preferring mainly to take care of the practicality, as well as the comfort of their own home.
For what reasons can men lack money?
In some cases, couples are faced with various problems of lack of money, which can lead to the fact that the husband stops giving money. Most psychologists agree that there are several main reasons:
- The man simply stopped working. It is possible that he was fired, for example, there was a serious layoff, a change of residence, or a serious illness. In this case, it is the woman who must certainly help her husband feel that she is quite needed, as well as a qualified specialist, while not constantly asking him to find a high-paying job, since the man is most likely in a real depression. Some men do not work simply for one simple reason - they are real gigolo or suffer from various addictions. In this case, you should not look for the reasons in yourself, contact a qualified specialist who can look at the situation from the outside.
- Some men don't make money, but rather just work. The following can be singled out as the reasons: insufficient level of education or not so much work experience. In some cases, men spend a lot of money on hobbies and hobbies, which may require large financial investments.
- Sometimes men are quite hard and constantly work, but they prefer not to invest in the budget at all. This situation can be explained by banal greed, he is simply not interested not only in the needs, but also in the needs of family members.
How to ask a man for money?
Often women, as well as girls, turn to psychologists and say that the husband does not simply give them money, and the girl herself is on maternity leave. What should be done? There are a few tricks that can help you achieve the result:
It is very important to take care of carefully calculating the required amount of funds that you just need to ask your spouse.
- You should only approach your spouse if he is in a good mood.
- If your husband accuses you of wasting money, in no case do not react to it.
- You should not immediately ask for a large amount of money, as the man may think that you are cheating him.
- Constantly remind your spouse that it is important to purchase certain purchases.
Basically, most men can justify their own greed by the fact that they simply have this behavior or character, and the wife is calculating and is constantly spent only on shopping. Such men are simply not able to delve into the household needs of the family, they believe that they are not so important. In some cases, a man out of jealousy does not want the girl to somehow develop and spend money on self-care. It is much easier for them to blame their spouse for everything than to admit to themselves some psychological problems. Sometimes it is so difficult to live with a person and love him. But if you want to save the marriage, you have to negotiate. Remember, in no case should you humiliate yourself in front of a man. Sometimes because of this, women do not even want to return home. And I want to spend all my earnings on junk food, eating up problems.
