Situations when a husband reproaches his wife with money arise quite often. Especially if the spouse earns little or no income of her own, for example, while on maternity leave. Is it possible to resist the husband in this case? Psychologists note that in this situation it is possible to prevent the brewing conflict and save the family without any special problems.
When getting married, every woman believes that now she will certainly be happy. And with the sweetheart there will be paradise in the hut. But over time, romance gradually fades into the background, giving way to everyday issues, of which financial is far from the last place. After all, it is because of money that scandals and discontent arise in many families. A woman, according to her husband, spends a lot of money on cosmetics, clothes, various things. While he diligently earns them.
Conflicts and reproaches from a spouse can arise for various reasons:
- due to lack of money,
- due to excessive savings,
- due to the inherent greed of a spouse,
- if only one husband works.
When a man is the only source of income in a family, he gradually begins to find fault with his wife about spending money. If a woman does not work, for example, does housework or is on parental leave, the husband may think that since his beloved practically does not leave the house, she does not need to use cosmetics, she does not need new clothes or hairstyle. Gradually, there are more reasons for reproaches, he demands an account for every penny spent.
A similar situation often arises if the spouse works, but earns much less than the husband. In this case, disputes over finances can also arise.
If the family is planning a big purchase, for which the spouses set aside every free penny, and the wife takes money from the "stash" to buy things for herself or for the house, without which, according to the husband, you can do without, wait for a showdown.
Often one of the complaints from the spouse is the opinion that the wife is not rational to spend the family budget. In this case, he may require a report on all purchases.
All these and other reproaches, especially if they are unfounded, can seriously complicate family life. To prevent this, you need to try to find a rational way out.
For example, psychologists recommend: if the husband requires a report on spending, give it to him. Make a shopping list indicating the value of each item. Perhaps in this way you will also adjust your spending. Indeed, often, women buy trinkets, which you can safely do without. This point is important when the family has a really difficult financial situation.
Try to keep receipts from stores. Provide them to your spouse as a statement of the money spent. It is especially useful to show how much items were purchased directly for its use.
Plan your purchases and acquisitions with your husband. Learn to manage your money properly. Before leaving the store, write in advance what exactly you need to buy, and do not give in to the urge to buy something other than the list.
Often, complaints about a woman come during her period of maternity leave. Psychologists recommend settling the conflict by trying to find some part-time job and purchase cosmetics and things for yourself from your own earned funds. So you can prove to your husband that if you are spending money on yourself, then yours. Perhaps this situation will suit him completely.
Try another good effective way to eliminate the problem with the husband's constant dissatisfaction with the irrational use of family funds. It is suitable when the husband constantly reproaches his spouse that she spends a lot on housekeeping. Offer your husband an experiment. Entrust all purchases to your spouse. At least for a month. At this time, let him decide what to buy products, detergents, things and whatever his soul desires. At the same time, remind your husband to pay for utilities and other services. If the experiment succeeds, then soon the husband himself will offer you money so that he no longer bothers himself with household chores.
